The Good Old Days
Oh!!! How I miss the good old days. Is it just me or has the dating world changed completely. Okay… so it has been over 7 years since I have been on the dating scene but I was totally unaware of how much it has revolutionized. Here I was thinking that my friends were making a mountain out of a mole hill with their dating experiences ….but damn was I wrong (shaking my head). There is no such thing as having clean fun these days. Sad to say but we are really living in the last days.
The protocols and practices of dating in the 21st century are disturbing and degrading. Dating is a period in which two people assess each other suitability to each other. It usually precedes an established relationship between two people, whether it’s of a romantic nature or just casual friendship. Dating is a form of courtship; asking someone out and going someplace for a specified time – whether its dinner, movies, hanging at a bar and playing some pool or going for a walk in the park. When you date someone you take the time out to know them, see how compatible you are with each other and observe if this person shares your views on life and have the same basic values as you as do. It is from this observation, one can decide on the investment of a relationship.
My perspective on dating is… May I say… old- fashioned. Blogging about this post reminds me of a song from Bares Hammond, “Rock Away.” This song takes you back to the good old days. I miss the simple days when dating meant something. I miss when a guy really wanted to get to know a girl and simply flirt for weeks and months before venturing to the next level. I call that approach, ‘building the right foundation.’ What happened to getting to know someone on all the different fronts before you jump into bed with them? What happened to the long walks and late night phone calls? I guess I have been out of the dating world far too long.
My friends were right when they said that the dating world right now is a jungle and only the fittest survive. As mentioned, I am presently back in the dating world, however… I am not looking for anything serious because I am not ready to commit to anyone at this time. I just want to flirt, go on a few dates and get to know people from various backgrounds. For the past few weeks, I just realize that when a man says he likes you and wants to take you on a date; what he is really saying is he wants to sleep with you also. No one right now understands the language of a good conversation without trying to get into your panties at the end of it. To my surprise, I have even heard a few guys say they will not date a girl for no longer than three weeks and not get anything out of it…. My question to that is really? What types of women have you guys been coming across lately and yes! Of course… the biggest question of all, “Why is sex so overrated?” Have we women dropped our standards so low that men don’t even respect our woman hood anymore? Well …guess what I think, I would remain single for a very long time to come ‘cause I am on some different shit.
First things first, I am not that desperate so that I drop my panties for you to prod into…HELL TO THE NO. I have morals so if a guy can’t take the time to get to know me and for us to build something from nothing… to see where we can end up, then…. Hmm… too bad for them. For all I care it’s “to the left to the left” for you. I love me and I know my worth. I will not judge anyone who wants to compromise their position just to have or keep a man around, because to each his own. However, on a personal note, I rather keep it real because I am not cheap nor am I lose -legged. At the end of the day, I rather to be called a stuck- up bitch knowing that I stand up for something as opposed to falling for anything.
Remember people- Nothing in life that is worth having comes easy…If you don’t know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else… Kudos.
Joke of the Day:
A man said to a whore, “You gave me crabs”. She looked back at him and said, “You paid 2 bucks what did you expect… LOBSTER!?”
The moral of the story is sometimes in life you get what you pay for. If you make good investments, then you will expect good returns. Never set your standards low.
Have a good day!
Intresting
I can really relate to this:(
Well, I fell short in the last “thing” I was in. Jumped at it way too soon. There was no logic in it and I greatly regret my actions, however I have learned and grown and I am now back to my old fashion way of thinking.
If a guy cannot take the time to get to know me then he is certainly not worth my time. As Steve H mentioned in his recent book “straight talk, no chasers” from a man’s prospective , women must incorporate the 90 day rule.At least this way one can feel the person out, see what they are about, but once you have SEX too soon all logic is blown out the window and the “emotions” takes over.
The emotions makes you see things that are not there, makes you even think the person is the sweetest person ever, when in-fact , he/she is or may be the biggest jerk/loser/womanizer, you name to ever walk to earth. My take is; I cannot loose what you don’t have anyways, so I can wait around for someone to see what is beyond my face and body and appreciate my brains, intellect and appreciate the fact that I am an amazing woman!
Have patience I say:)
I share this view somewhat.
i dont think dating exists, its moreless a casual meeting to see how far things go.
As a man, growing up, i was given the impression that hey, cant form no relationship with no girl unless u sample the meat, as in, get to like the sex before liking the person.
all about sex sex sex. if the sex suite u, then u take an interest in the person.
and im sure thats still the mentality of some men. Even in the younger generation coming up, its all about sex, as said, no such thing as clean fun. gotta do something dirty.
So to this day, im still troubled a bit, when seeking a woman, how she feels sexually, still plays on the mind untill u get it, if u get it.
Absolutely wonderful blog.
Everything now is about pleasure, materialism and sex. To us this new generation, relationships and commitment and to lesser extent, marriage; is too much work.
Another sad unfortunate reality is, people and our virtues is now sickening and degrading. Women will give their bodies to get what they want in return and men, one woman cannot satisfy them and sadly, the black man has lost respect for their women and only see them as objects and pleasure.